Parents/ Caregivers:

  • Love your children, spend time listening and talking and be attentive to their needs.
  • Teach them what touching is OK and what isn’t.
  • Support them to trust you, to tell you if anything uncomfortable is happening to them.

Adults in relationship/ Parents:

  • If you get angry often, work on recognising the warning signs of anger. This will help you get things under control before they get out of hand.
  • If you are angry, walk away and take time out away from your partner.
  • If you feel you and your partner are going to shout or fight, breathe, count to ten and go talk it out away from your children and others. Try and always look for the best in each other.
  • If there is violence in your relationship you can get help to make a change. Call 0800 428 428 for counselling.


  • If you suspect abuse and rape is happening to somebody in your home - talk to them and help them get help. They can call 0800 428 428 to get help.
  • If you hear violence happening in your neighbourhood, see if there is a way to go there for any reason to diffuse the situation e.g. lending salt.
  • If it continues, try and talk to them and if not, report to the police. Encourage those in the household to get help.
  • Build relationships with your neighbours, and look out for them.
  • If you see somebody, particularly a woman/girl being harassed in your street, intervene and offer support.
  • Show your love for your partner by respecting their right to say no to sex. Listen to each other. Talk about your needs in a relationship.
  • Do not try to control your partner’s movements, what they wear and who they are.
  • If you feel angry or potentially abusive step away to clear your head.
  • If you need help to deal with anger call 0800 428 428 for counselling.

As an Educator:

  • Build good trusting relationships with your learners.
  • If you suspect abuse, talk to the learner and link them to people who can help them.
  • Have discussions in class that promote human rights and human dignity of all individuals and groups.
  • Involve learners in projects that challenge rape and other forms of violence and that teach good relationship communication skills.
  • Have posters and brochures that promote healthy communication in relationships.
  • Promote choice as key to healthy bodies, lives and relationships.
  • Empower, encourage and support girls and women to make their own decisions about their bodies, about sex and about relationships.
  • If you pick up that a client has been raped – provide the necessary support and do follow-up checks
  • Treat survivors with dignity and compassion.
Police Station
  • Have posters and brochures in the police station that promote human rights for all and respect for women and other groups vulnerable to rape.
  • Create a supportive environment for the reporting of rape – believe and support survivors who report.
  • Challenge sexist attitudes amongst officers that treat rape and other forms of GBV as personal matters.
  • Get involved in doing community education work on rape prevention.
Church / Faith-Based Organization
  • Speak about violence against women and rape as unacceptable.
  • Provide a haven of support for survivors.
  • Teach congregants to respect themselves and to respect girls and women.
  • Do not entrench values and beliefs that undermine women’s rights and autonomy.
  • Encourage conversations about how to be peaceful and healthy in intimate relationships.
  • Encourage men who are at risk of being violent to find support.
Tavern Owner
  • Make your tavern a violence-free zone.
  • Encourage men to drink responsibly.
  • Encourage women to drink responsibly.
  • Watch out for situations where you think women may be in danger of rape, and try and encourage them to find safe ways to get home.
  • Be the tavern that is a safe, happy and fun space free of violence.
  • Have information available of where to get help should you or your customers need it.

As a Community Leader:

  • Speak out against rape and abuse.
  • Talk about respect and human rights of all people, especially women, girls, other genders and any groups vulnerable to rape.
  • Encourage awareness campaigns on rape that challenge myths that blame women and do not hold perpetrators accountable. Use community newspapers and radio for these purposes.
  • Encourage and advocate for good service provision to rape survivors.
  • Get the community to see rape as a community issue and how important it is to build a community safe from rape.
  • Don’t blame victims for rape. Rape is never the victim’s fault.

As a Community Member:

  • If you see a woman/ girl/ or any person being violated and raped intervene.
  • You can report it to the police, you can scream, you can look for help.
  • Be alert when you move around the community.
  • If you are in a involved in any community activity, talk about the need to stop rape and why it is important.
  • Know your neighbours and contribute to making your community a caring space.
  • Make sure that addressing GBV and rape is part of the neighbourhood watch activities.

What can you do as a man?

  • Remember that no one is born a rapist and that no one is born violent. It is possible to change.
  • Respect yourself and be in touch with your true values and your feelings.
  • Find help if you are struggling with feelings of anger or inadequacy, or if you have experienced violence and trauma if your life.
  • Watch your alcohol intake: if you lose control when you are drunk, stop drinking or drink less.
  • Be a role model who treats girls and women with respect and care.
  • Challenge sexist jokes and remarks about women.
  • Challenge men who harass women on the streets.
  • Actively speak out against rape and encourage other men to do the same.
  • Talk about how consent is really important for good relationships and good sex.
  • Don't turn a blind eye to rape. Support rape survivors in whatever ways you can. (Link to what to do if someone has been raped)
  • Be part of making your community a safe space for everyone.
  • Make your workplace a safe and happy environment for all employees, including women and other marginalised groups.
  • Promote positive values of human rights and respect for all, especially women and girls.
  • Have policies in place that take serious action to address any forms of violence and sexual harassment in the work place.
  • Share information on rape and other forms of gender-based violence through making posters and brochures available.
  • Have a vibrant Employee Wellness Programme in place that provides emotional support for all employees, and refers people to services when necessary.

About Us

Brothers for Life is a social and well-being movement aimed at mobilising men to take responsibility for their own health. We hope to achieve this by promoting positive male norms and encourage men to test for HIV and undergo Medical Male Circumcision (MMC), actively take a stand against Gender-Based Violence (GBV) in their communities.

Our Manifesto

Brothers who stand for responsible relationships
Brothers who stand for responsible parenting
Brothers who stand for responsible behaviour
Brothers who live positively
Brothers who do the right thing
Brothers who stand for life